I read through most of the posts. I didnt want to repeat any comments. So here are mine. First off love the build you have so far. PASM is awesome and a must in my opinion. The other stuff is just preference, but I would keep PASM on there.

I might suggest a few things.
Sunblinds for the rear really add a nice touch with or without kids.
Steering wheel in walnut? I have it with the walnut package and it looks nice,
but some people are not fond of wood steering wheels. I find it is classy.
I didnt see it on your build.
Alcantara Head liner adds a very expensive feel to the car, but then again it is expensive.

I too did not get PTV or PDCC, I guess I would have, but I was originally buying for my wife, and she didnt care about the PTV or PDCC, but PASM alone is sweet, I can't imagine how much more stable this thing could be in a turn, but I havent driven one with it yet.

With this SUV you cannot go wrong though. It really is nice.
If you are looking for an SUV that feels more car like, look no further.
This thing is great. I look forward to seeing your final build...good luck and I hope you enjoy it!